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Sun October 2012 - Climbing

It’s 4am and I’m wide awake, coming round with a start in a hot motel in Mariposa, my first thought being “She did it!” 

Ella, my 13 year old daughter, is sleeping in the bed next to me like only a teenager could, a sleep so deep only an earthquake (or a blast of Two Door Cinema Club)  could break, and she deserves it; last night she was sleeping on El Cap, having climbed Tangerine Trip over 4 hit days and nights. If there’s any teenager on the planet who deserves to sleep in today it’s Ella.

I’m sure for everyone who thinks its amazing that someone so young could find the strength to climbed El Cap (both mental and physical - as she had to jumar free hanging ropes for 700 metres), there will be those that will be appalled that a father would risk his child’s life in such away.  To be honest I find myself seeing it from both sides, and this adventure has been one of great soul searching and stress, as well as laugher and moments that made me want it cry with joy.

I guess I should start at the beginning.

For many years I’ve brought my kids Ella and Ewen along to my slideshows, as well as events like the Kendal Mountain Film festival. They’ve sat through dozens of talks, sometimes even laying on the stage at my feet, chuckling away. At first I felt a bit uneasy, after all do I want my kids listening to all these tales of daring do?  But climbing and the rewards and risks of that life make me who I am, and the lessons it has tough me are lessons I’ve tried to pass on to my kids. Adventure is in my DNA and so it’s in there’s also, and so they should see what I get up to when I’m away, and understand both the risks and rewards of striving for impossible things. 

I’ve never been a pushy climbing parent, and always wanted to leave it up to them to decide how to explore the boundaries of themselves, exposing them to wilderness and danger the way my dad did, giving the impression of both, while keeping them on a short leash.

One question that kept coming up at talks was “When are you going to climb El Cap with your kids” to which I’d rely “Oh not until Ella’s 13”, thinking the youngest girl to climb El Cap was that age (turns out she was 14!). This always got a laugh, mainly because it was obviously a crazy idea. Then Ella turned 13, and she asked the question “so dad, when are we going to climb El Cap?”.

My first reaction was “Why not?”  Having climbed it nearly twenty times (soloed it 3 times, climbed it in 18 hours, spent 11 days doing it its hardest route, and nearly two months hanging from it) I thought I knew enough to keep her safe. Also having climbed it with two people with disabilities (Karen Darke and Phil Packer) I also understood just what was possible. When you’ve seen a woman do four thousand pull ups, and use only her arms (and nerve) to climb El Cap, you know that it would be easier for a 13 year old - well physically at least (if not easy).
And so I said “maybe we’ll go in the spring holidays next year” having no real plans to really plan on doing so.

But Ella is persistent, and now when we went climbing she would want to learn how to jumar, how to abseil, ask me how she would go to the toilet ‘when we’ (not ‘if we’) climbed El Cap.

Very soon her mum (my long suffering ex wife) said “What’s this about Ella climbing El Cap?”, to which I relied “oh it’s just a faze - she’s soon forget about it”, thinking that at 13 she’d soon be thinking more about boys then big walls.

But like most adults I underestimated my child.

She had made it her goal to climb El Cap, and I realised that to let her down was something I couldn’t do. I had to make it happen, not matter what it took.

The first person to be convinced was Mandy Ella’s mum. I left this up to Ella to negotiate, knowing full well the persistence of a child is greatest force in nature to change an adults mind!  The answer was a yes - but only on the conditions that she would be safe, and that my mate Paul Tattersall was there - the only climber that Mandy trusted.  Paul agreed to come if I could cover the cost of the trip and so with much reluctance Mandy gave Ella her blessing.

In life if you set out with purpose to doing something amazing you invariably find that circumstance will lend a hand (always lived by that moto “Act boldly and unseen forces will come to your aid”). The first thing was a talented film maker called Ian Burton got in touch with an idea for a film about climbing El Cap with an ex Royal Marine sniper called Aldo Kain, seeing how someone like that (a trained killer!) would get on on a wall. “How about we took Ella along as well?” I suggested, and so the idea was born. Better still Ian could cover all the costs of the trip (I had yet to work out how to pay for me, Ella and Paul to climb El Cap).

A date was set, and we started to train with more focus, Ella learning how to pass knots, wall safety, aiding, self rescue, cleaning pitches. She would have to miss some school and permission was granted (now that’s what I call a progressive school!). The months turned to weeks and then days before we were due to go.

And then it all fell apart. Ian could not get a visa to enter the US. With no money to pay for the trip it fell through.

As you can imagine, although she put on a brave face, I knew Ella was deeply disappointed.

I guess before then I’d just been going along with the notion of climbing El Cap with her, but now I knew it was more just a climb, it was stepping up and fighting to make it happen, no matter what.
We’d had had a plan to climb as a 5 person team, with Paul leading, Aldo cleaning (who’d I yet to meet, but knew as a safety rigger - and trained killer - he would be invaluable on the wall), me hauling, Ella jugging and Ian filming. The technique was based on the Russian 4 person big wall system (2 pushing up ropes, two hauling up kit behind), which although heavy was very safe. 

Telling Ella that we’d not be going was hard, and harder when she said that Mandy had said I’d probably not do it anyway, “well dad you are a bit unreliable”. That was it, this was no longer about Ella climbing El Cap, it was about a father fulfilling a promise (I only wish it had just been buying her a bloody horse!).

Again forces came to my aid.  Aldo was happy to pay his own way there, happy to climb a big wall, while a cheque arrived for my first royalties for Cold Wars. The cheque cashed, I spent the lot on two tickets to San Fransisco, showing the confirmation to Ella.

We were going!

And so two weeks ago we finally reached Yosemite, arriving at night, Ella’s first impression of El Cap being its bulk blocking out the stars, the border between wall and space blurred by the pin pricks of head torches high on the Nose.

We were unable to climb until 5.30am on the following Monday morning due to our filming permit, so hung around the valley doing very little due to the heat, the coolness of autumn still absent. In fact I’d never felt such heat in Yosemite, even in June, the temperature up in the 90’s. I began to wonder if it would be possible to even climb in such heat, as beyond the Nose the wall was almost empty (apart from Brits Vick and Guy climbing Zodiac, and Brit Ollie soloing Tangerine Trip, all proving the adage about ‘Mad dogs and Englishmen”).

Paul and Aldo and I took turns fixing ropes up to pitch 5 on Tangerine Trip, a route I’d climbed in winter conditions with Mat Dickinson many years before, and chosen due to it steepness (steepest route on El Cap), meaning it would be safe in storm and safe to jug. The heat was brutal, as just climbing one pitch left both climbers close to heat stroke.

I began to have doubts about the feasibility of climbing the wall, while at the same time Ella was chomping at the bit. She had begun to immerse herself in the Valley, its strange collection of people, its names and rules, bus circuits and cafeteria menus. One day I said “maybe if we finish early we could go to San Fransisco and visit Alcatraz, to which she replied “can’t we climb Lost Arrow Spire instead?”

Eventually Sunday came around and I knew we just had to make it work, carrying 90 litres of water up the base (we planned on 3 hanging bivis) the night before. We set up in the dark to bivy at the base, dodging two rattle snakes who were laid out on the rocks enjoying the slow release of heat from the heat locking in the talus.

Oh how I wished I’d been cold bloodied on the days that followed.

As usual on a big wall with such a big team day one was a disaster. We all juged a free hanging for about 100 metres, then I began hauling while Paul and Aldo pushed out the ropes. The weight of the haul bags (99 litres of water, 4 days food for 5, 3 ledges, plus assorted crap) was insane.  Me, Ella and Ben were at the belay all day as I literally inched the haul bags up, while being roasted in the sun.

I spent most of the first day either hauling, or telling Ella to drink, paranoid about her getting heat stroke. Finally the bags arrived, but so did the night, meaning we bivied where we’d been all day, only hoping tomorrow would be better. The only consolation was Ella had overcome her 2nd biggest hurdle: Weeing on the wall, which although messy for me (she weed on my legs and boots), was quick and effective.

The following day was better, but still slow, and marked by more heat and some massive lower outs for me, Ella and Ben. In the morning Ella had conquered her 1st biggest fear by having a crap in a wag bag (hanging her bum over the edge with the wag bag clasped around her), so I felt things were looking up.  My biggest worry was the amount of water we where drinking. Again Aldo Paul pushed the ropes up and we followed.

On each pitch Ella had to jumar a fixed rope (backed up by a shunt on the haul line), inching her way up on her jumars. As each pitch progressed she got more and more tired, getting slower and slower. A few people had asked what I’d do if she couldn’t get up the wall and my reply was “well she’ll have to!” - never actually considering what if she couldn’t.

That night she was so tired (as was the rest if the team) that I had to take her shoes off and get her in in her sleeping bag, seeing in her then deep fatigue that only a wall can bring.

The following morning we were only half way up the wall and it was tough getting her started, but started she had to be, as we had to move as quickly as possible to get to the top before we ran out of water. The sun had become something dreadful, like something out of a science fiction film,  drawing near at dawn, and bearing down all day until finally loosing its grip just before dark. Worse still El Cap was devoid of its usual winds that cool you down, and again and again I kept getting that T L Lawrence line in my head “In the desert there is nothing, and no man needs nothing”.

On this third day Ella literally needed to be cajoled, bullied and distracted up the rope, her fatigue obvious.  Having done many walks, climbs and paddles with the kids I had a great deal if experience of this, but now this was serious, as I found my own fatigue hauling the bags to much to deal with. The low point came when I lowered Ella off a belay and she realised she’d dropped her iPod, a gift from her mum and engraved with her name. She started to cry and literally just hung on the rope at the end of her tether.  I shouted up to Ben and Aldo that they should be prepared to haul Ella up the next two pitches, as she was too tired to do it, and in an instant she came round and shouted “No!  I want to do it myself - if I don’t I’ll only be disappointed” and with that she slowly made her way up two more rope lengths to the belay. To say I was stunned by her strength, grit and determination would be an understatement. I knew that it was this show of will that I had wanted to mine all along, a inner strength that I knew she had (and we all have), but even so I really had to find my own strength not to cry.

That night Ella fully endorsed the dirt bag life of a wall climber, drinking a can of Pepsi, eating a tin of pineapple, tuna mixed with soft cheese and a tin of cold beans and sausages. I asked her what stopped her crying and she said “I just thought that my iPod would always been in this beautiful place and that was ok… Plus you said you’d buy me and iPad” (I’d forgot that bit!).

The last day on the wall was amazing as finally the sun lost its grip and the wind came, cooling us off as we climbed the last 3 pitches.  Big walls are always like this. They grip you so tight you feel as if they will kill you and you’ll never reach the top, and then, in the moment you relax and finally understand its lesson (you’ll have to climb one to now what that is) it releases its grip and reluctantly you reach the end of your journey.

On the final pitch Ella wanted to free climb, so I belayed her up, easy climbing for her in her trainers, but still on the edge of the world.

As is always the case there was no room of celebrations as haul bags where pulled up one by one, and kit sorted. Each team member coming up one by one (what an amazing team is was - a true band of brothers… and a little sister). As I pulled up the last bag Aldo pointed away for the edge and saw Ella sat crossed need in the dirt, her head bowed forward resting on a tin of beans and sausages, fast asleep.

As with all such climbs there is much to unpack afterwards - both physical and emotionally - and I think it will takes many months for us all to do so, but I think for everyone it was something very, very special.  To spend two weeks alone with Ella was amazing, and also startling, enlightening and surprising. I saw this little girl grow before my eyes into someone truly amazing. It was also a little sad, as I knew she hadn’t become this person on the wall, but in the 13 years it took to get there. Before me was this human being who could get rigged up to jumar herself, carry a big pack,  and remain positive at the lowest moments, someone who thought her own thoughts and could look after herself. She tied on as my baby and untied as an equal to us all.

One thing I was always scared about was that it might all go to her head. But when we boarded the shuttle bus yesterday afternoon, all eyes on the five of us, looking like we’d just crawled out of Hell, and I said “hey everyone - this 13 year old girl just climbed El Cap”, and the whole bus clapped her, I could see only an embarrassed pride.

I’d just like to thanks the following people for making this trip happen. Lyon Equipment and Petzl. First Ascent (BD). Marmott.  Tom at the Bridge. Ollie. High Storrs school (for giving Ella the time to Coe away). Cheermania (Ella’s more into Cheerleading than climbing). Without the support and bravery (and trust) of Mandy its would also never have happened. And lastly to Paul, Aldo, Ben on the wall, and all the climbers who made her trip so fun and enlightening. 


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Andy Kirkpatrick

The US magazine Climbing once described Andy as a climber with a “strange penchant for the long, the cold and the difficult”, with a reputation “for seeking out routes where the danger is real, and the return is questionable, pushing himself on some of the hardest walls and faces in the Alps and beyond, sometimes with partners and sometimes alone.” More succinctly, Metro magazine claims that he “makes Ray Mears look like Paris Hilton”

Comments 16
  • Heavy Whalley

    Incredible piece of writing, what a story - amazing - I am so impressed by your daughter what a journey. Stay safe

    Heavy - the man who taught your Dad!

    10/07/12
  • Alastair Humphreys

    Well done both of you!
    Fantastic post, Andy…

    10/07/12
  • Charlie Paton

    Congratulations Ella and guys.. Good read! Can’t wait to do this myself!

    10/09/12
  • Andy Benham

    Congratulations to Ella.  Wonderful post.  It was very moving having two girls of my own hearing your account of living through Ella’s coming of age.  I had a lump in my throat reading that.  Well done too for having to balls to let your children fly and not try and wrap them too tightly in cotton wool

    10/09/12
  • Mark Reeves

    Lovely perspective Andy. I can only imagine how hard it would have been for a 13 year old to get motviated on the third day of epic jumaring on the oven that is El Cap.

    Congratulations to Ella and the whole team!

    10/09/12
  • Scott Reid

    Wow, truely inspirational. I love hearing about your adventures, and this is a truely special one. Being a crap climber, and a father of a 3 year old myself, I hope I can instill the qualities onto my child , that you have on Ella.

    10/09/12
  • ian stranack

    I climb with my 11 year old daughter. Our ‘big plan’ is to go to the Alps when she is 16. Your story has touched me. I feel the same fears that you do, and share the same joys. Oh yes, she needs.to be cajoled and perhaps bullied sometimes, but she always comes back for.more.

    On.a completely separate note, you might want to re-read your narrative, as it has quite a few typos.

    Ian

    10/12/12
  • Scott Swalling

    Andy, a brilliant and honest account as usual.  Massive congrats to you all, huge respect.

    10/12/12
  • Rob Thornton

    Great life adventure for both of you we reckon.Thanks for the journey you two! grin Rob & Peggy.

    10/12/12
  • Dani Cameron Chafer

    Excellent story, I was brought up climbing with my Dad too, wish we’d had the opportunity to do one like this!

    10/12/12
  • Ed Mitchell

    An great read. It was a privilege to meet Ella and yourself at camp 4, and one of the thoughts that kept me sane during my own personal hell of free hanging jumars up the leaning tower was that only a couple of miles away a 13 year was doing the same, and probably with a lot more composure!

    Congratulations to you and your team, and of course, most of all to Ella. An amazing adventure.

    10/12/12
  • Hannah Smith

    wow. very inspiring, and so was your talk i went too.
    It makees you feel like nothing is impossible, and you want to ever more strive to achieve your goals and help others achieve theirs.

    Thank you
    Hannah

    10/12/12
  • www.wildwomanswimming.wordpress.com

    Amazing story Andy. Well done to all of you, and especially Ella.

    10/12/12
  • Conso

    For your daughter http://www.shewee.com Being a father to a teenage girl is hard enough without her pishin’ on your leg while hanging off El Cap. Great to read of another father’s attempts to rise to the challenges of parenthood. Great blog Andy. A gripping read in so many different ways..

    11/05/12
  • Nashly Suarez

    This was a remarkable story. I went to Yosemite October on October 5th. I was in that shuttle with my husband and friends on our way to the Four Mile Trail when you made that announcement. We were impressed and helped us out through our hike when it got tough. We often said “this is hard imagine the 13yr old girl that climbed El Cap” -nashly s.

    11/11/12
  • Sam Collins

    It was about a month ago now but my form (I’m a teacher) did an assembly on Heroes and inspirational people. We told your daughters story as part of it using her blog. It worked very well, a great inspiration to students of the same age.

    Thanks
    Sam

    11/14/12
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